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^____^ I will. You need to teach me how to have fun. Ho ho ho!! Give me 1 week and I won't be all depressed anymore. ^_^
Posted by Kim @ 07/09/2001 10:07 PM PST
This is my first time posting out of all the times I've visited your site. Dang. Sounds like you have had a rough weekend. You need to stop thinking so much. It's depressing me even. *Tear*. heheh..Jus chill..You'll be in college this fall. Enjoy your first year because it is the best. Truly...PEEACE.
OH YEAH..
I better not be one of those three people goin to UCI that you don't like. hahahah..You like Tina right? She's HOT. *Whew* hahahah
Posted by Patrick G @ 07/09/2001 09:49 PM PST
Hehe.. I have problems debating with people. Because I usually don't really address there points. And just say state my immediate reaction to their response. So I might be off topic or something.
Everything in life effects you. Everyday your changing. Your never truly the same person you were yesterday.
Live your life the way you want to. NOBODY determines your path, but yourself. Heck even what I'm saying is probably BS. Everyone should do whatever the hell they want. As long as they have no regrets.
IMO.. I dont care if I'm thrown in the middle of the dessert. Or in Paris (a la Jet Li in KOD). I'll still be the same person deep down. Whether I'm wearing a turbin, fruity french baret, or some college sweater. It doesn't matter.
And people who are changed by these situations.. just dont truly know who they are. Or haven't found themselves yet. Course that just my opinion.
ANYWAYS! I'm running out of stuff on this topic.
Now Jet Li and Bridget Fonda in Kiss of the Dragon. I can go on forever about that. ^^
Posted by Jason [e-meo]
@ 07/09/2001 09:08 PM PST
I like knowing some people who are going to be there... (Most of them I've met just this year)... It makes going there seem a little less threatening, even though I probably won't see them. Since it's such a variety of people, it's not like I'm leaning on any ONE for support. =] I just have a lot of friends to chill with once I get there.
It's kind of like I had orientation a year early.
Posted by Kim @ 07/09/2001 08:07 PM PST
=) No one said anything about
LOSING friends. I said they'll
CHANGE.
It's just my opinion that going to
college where you know few people
is best. The whole idea is to LOSE
your support. You don't want that
support. You can't become entirely
self-sucfficient/independent until
you've cut loose all your support.
Kind of a sink or swim situation.
Your friends influence you. The
people around you are part of who
you are. If you are always around
the same people, they're the only
people that will shape you. You
need to get away from that to
grow.
Of course this is just IMO.
Jason, you still need to get out
of there. You never left home. You
are still in the same place you
attended junior high and high
school. If I dropped you at a
college in Seattle, how would you
adapt? Now what if I dropped you
at San Jose State with a friend.
How would you develop then?
In the far from home, alone case
you would have to adapt and grow
as an individual. That or fall
into depression and die trying.
If you survive, you would be
unstoppable. Just like boot camp,
they break you and then rebuild
you into something strong.
In the close to home, with a friend
case your environment has changed
in that you're at a new school, but
not much else has changed. That
friend will be your support, but
you won't grow so much an
individual. In the future, if
suddenly all your friends leave,
you would break without your
support.
Posted by Vinh @ 07/09/2001 04:26 PM PST
I don't think that is nesscarily true.
Saying that its more difficult to grow up because you have old friends with you. I actually think its more easier, because you'll always have support from your friends. While your growing up and experiencing new things, you'll always have your roots to support you.
Its just a matter of perspective. To me.. growing up, doesn't mean you have to loss contact with your friends. Or have to sacrifce one aspect of your life, to gain another. Growin up..is more of a building process. Experience, memories, new skills, and friends just continually enter and enrich your life.
No one says, you have to loss one friend to make another one. Forget one memory to have another.
Yeah everyone will change, thats a given. You'll lose friends, make new ones. Duh! I've lost friends thru the years and made friends in the process. That just how life is.
I think the important thing is not a matter of growth. But not forgetting who you are.
Posted by Jason [e-meo]
@ 07/09/2001 02:00 PM PST
It doesn't matter how many people
you know where you're going. The
truth about college is that it's
a time when everyone finds their
own direction in life. Everyone
will change in some way or other.
You may know them now, you will
run in to them now and again, but
chances are you will hang out with
different people, and without a
doubt all of you will change.
IMO, it's better to know as few
people as possible when you go off
to college. It lets to start out
fresh and when you come home on
breaks you can catch up with
friends on old times, but know that
you have separate lives now. It's
more difficult to let go of old
things and grow up if you have
people from your past with you.
Posted by Vinh @ 07/09/2001 01:09 PM PST
