19 have spoken
your post talks about exactly what i have been having to deal with the last 6+ months or so.
you put it very succintly, and that's always good. but the main thing is that what you're saying struck home.
thank you.
Posted by Marcus [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 11/24/2002 12:43 AM PST
hey kim...i'm one of those ppl who wantonly browses thru sites looking for intelligent conversation, but i'm going to come back. I find ur stuff inspiring. you say something about how ppl don't care as much as we think they do, but u'd be suprised.
Posted by Chris [e-meo]
@ 11/20/2002 01:24 AM PST
kim. i think you're right. when i first saw your site you had an entry that totally resonated with me. i think your design skillz are amazingly slick so i come back every month or two and check out what's new and scroll through the last few posts. but the last half of the summer things seemed pretty slow. to be honest, i haven't looked as much. i may just be an anomaly of your average visitor but I do read for quality... or i guess at least resonance.
but, unlike, many other journals except maybe the now defunct (for the same reasons you mention, i guess) antigirl.nu, you seem to have a key awareness of the reader. when i write. i write just for me. everyone else can fuck off. obviously, they do as i have about 4 people who check out my site on any regular basis.
Posted by blake [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 11/12/2002 06:55 PM PST
I'm not a regular here. I just drop by once in a while to read your blogs and see if there's a new layout. Apparently you're not just another pretty face on the web. What makes your site unique from the other cam sites are your creative "random" layouts and your thoughtful journal entries. This time around I didn't get my favorite island flash animation above the journal, but next time i'm hoping to get that one, damnit!
Keep it up Kim; people are reading and relating to your entries.
Posted by Kenny [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 11/08/2002 11:17 PM PST
SO VERY TRUE! :D :D
Posted by Vanessa [virtual dwelling]
@ 11/04/2002 05:02 PM PST
funny how things work out.
maybe you could put it another way. the people who you think care about you the most are the people that are worth considering what they think about you.
err.. that's not making any sense, is it?
but what about the people who do post? what do you have to say about them? do the care more or less? and the people who do care but are too afraid to post. they're dealing with their own criticisms and insecurities.
. has a good point (ha ha ha... -_-;) people do have their own insecurities, to lead them to act less interested in others. these insecurities make them less willing to respond, to open up.
Posted by shinekomi [virtual dwelling]
@ 11/04/2002 08:36 AM PST
dude. i'd be willing to bet PEOPLE CARE MORE THAN YOU THINK. whilst my wicked world wouldn't unravel before me should you stop writing (from the heart or not), i would wonder what happened; personally i think this qualifies as a "caring construct". moreover, i'd be further willing to bet that there are a plethora of people that pass through your site, read, are moved in some way and yet don't respond to you by posting. needless to say, this doesn't mean that people aren't 'taking something away' when they leave your site.
i would like to encourage you to keep writing, when you have time and it doesn't feel like a chore.
Posted by i74 [e-meo]
@ 11/03/2002 10:46 PM PST
Rather depressing to think that people don't care. But that's not the only reason why people come back: to care. But that's what you seem to be concerned with. Heh, you are so sentimental.
Posted by babysharka [virtual dwelling]
@ 11/02/2002 05:13 PM PST
"I came to this guest book and I see this dumbass write, but maybe if I write like him, talk like him, be him, I'll have a reason to live. I mean, look at this fags writing, he thinks he's so cool. Maybe I'll check out his webpage and figure out how he thinks so I can be like this fag and clown him to look cool, better yet, i'll make it an everyday thing, I'll be even cooler than he thinks he is. I know, ill even mimick his name and call myself 'dat FAG bastard wolf', that's got to be cool, even more, ill copee hiz ryttin style soo ai can make myself stand out more since bein mahself nevva werked in da ferst place... yea... hey iz werkin... I hav tah be koo since ai tynk he iz so much... look out gurlz... mah masterbatin dayz R ovva since ai got 'dat fag bastard wolfz' lyf style stuck in mah head..."
wat a moron... lemme gez... now dat yu kno hoo ai am an how ai tynk... yull be commin in eberday tah mah site... deny it... but yu will since now itz an itch tah see dat "fag" bastard wolf an wat he duz evryday so yu kan get yer kickz bout klownin me... talk bout hoo wantz tah see it... yu went in outta curiousity yerself... did ai intrigue yu dat much... or yer jez gunna come back wiff an excuze...
apologiez fer bringin dis unethical sheit talk into yer comment board...
Posted by dat "fag" bastard wolf @ 11/02/2002 03:38 AM PST
yea ai so gay...ai kant even spell or nutin' hur hur..but daz ok cuz ai am lyke kool an shiet wen ai write lyke i neva finished kindergarden. Yea lyke n-e-one wud lyke to read mai stoopid krak-azz "log uv bull shiet" wit pics uv oogly ass azn chix an gay pics of me cruzzin wit mai friens an all mai boring daily entriez. Yea lyke n-e-one wantz to take the tyme to figure out mai fookin writing...ai jus so bad azz yo. Yea...so ai am really jus a loozer...
Posted by dat FAG bastard wolf [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 11/01/2002 03:50 PM PST
wait... so... wat yuz sayin iz me commin hea iz a bad tyng... or a good tyng... either way... ai get kickz an knackz bout yah...
yu wanna see a log uv bull shiet... come tah mine an ill show yu wazzup... uh... yeap...
Posted by dat bastard wolf [virtual dwelling]
@ 11/01/2002 03:13 AM PST
Quality?
You don't blog for your readers you know. If you do then that's a pity and I need to consider if I want to come back.
Your writings give a free look into your life - as much as you allow us to see of course. Sometimes the view is boring, sometimes it is breathtaking, but it is always a surprise. That is what makes me coming back.
Whether I care for what is going on in your life is something totally different and has little to do with my interest for your blog.
Posted by Kris @ 11/01/2002 12:27 AM PST
Sup KN, I think what you say can be true, but just to provide a different perspective, think of it as the " glass half full", 'People DO care as much as you may think they DON'T'.
If you think that way then it provides you with another explanation as to why people come to your blog and respond to your messages.
I think you might agree that it is much easier just to think negatively of a situation than it is to analyze it positively as well. =]
Posted by mark [e-meo]
@ 10/31/2002 08:46 PM PST
It is true that people most likely do not pay as much attention to the little things that you do as much as you think they may. Insecurities make the tiniest details about ourselves and our actions seem overwhelming and lead us to believe that others see these things in the same light. It's important to remember though, that everbody is insecure about things than you would never even know about, and that the flaws that you find within youself cannot even be noticed by others.
Posted by . @ 10/31/2002 05:24 PM PST
Kim, I think if someone truly didn't care they wouldn't come back time and again to read your blog. And you're absolutely right- it doesn't matter how well versed, or sloppy, or jumbled, or eloquent you right- the same people will come back and look at your site- and I would bet that most of those people, or at least myself- do care and like reading what you have to say. Whether it be learning something about you or just the chance to share some kind words in a response, your type of site provides a forum of more personal level conversation that people enjoy. Note that it doesn't always have to be intellegent to be enjoyable :0) Take care~!
Posted by Louis [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 10/31/2002 05:14 PM PST
That's not true. I care.
Posted by eyekyu [e-meo]
@ 10/31/2002 04:59 PM PST
i luv urt websiote so beautiful , visit mine bebe , i wann eXchange link with u ;P
Posted by July [virtual dwelling]
@ 10/31/2002 02:41 PM PST
i do not expect enlightenment every time i read your blogs (and i read most of them). but very often i do learn something from your blogs, even the painful ones. perhaps some people do care about you kim because we have been there and we understand. or perhaps because we realize that you are much more special than you think you are. thank you for sharing.
Posted by tom [e-meo]
@ 10/31/2002 02:18 PM PST
very true kim..lol like take the fact that u dont know me, and i dont really know you.. i dont expect inteligent conversations/writings from your blog, but when i read them, its nice.
LASTLY:love the new layout!
Posted by pauline [e-meo]
[virtual dwelling]
@ 10/31/2002 10:26 AM PST
